Sunday, 24 June 2012
This medium that we all use so frequently, has changed the very fabric of humanity. What was once a thick finely threaded blanket, is now a thin sheet of menial connections. The internet is ruining humans.
I came to this thought when I opened up my computer this morning. I did not roll over and smother my man in kisses, instead, I daintily unplugged my laptop (that was laying carelessly under my bed since it was the last thing i touched before falling asleep) and tip toed out of our bedroom to perch on the couch with coffee mug in hand.Like every morning for as long as I can remember, I logged in to my various social networks to see what had happened overnight. Upon first glance, these networks are relatively harmless, but upon further inspection, they are black holes to our narcissistic beings, sucking the life force and the precious time away from us with increasingly nefarious speeds.
Dont get me wrong, I enjoy the connection too. I believe those connections are positive in many ways- psychologically for that very connection we share, mentally, for the way it stretches our brains and lets us educate ourselves and each other. While there are some benefits to social media, Im also seeing some big downfalls too. Particularly in the way I perceive 'friends.'
A friend is someone with whom you spend time, share stories, engage. A friend is someone whom you can lean on, emote with, be silly and playful. A friend, is someone who supports you, encourages you, and challenges you. Can you have friends whom you only engage online? Sure. But are they there when you really need them, or only until they log in next?
Why is it that we keep friends on your radar, when they serve no purpose to us? Why do we see 'unfriending' as the ultimate diss? The nail in the coffin and the severence of ties, when in reality, the lack of any sort of life integration with one another, should really be the sign that there is no substantial friendship. Why does it hurt when someone doesnt want to be our online friend?